One of the most consistent findings in studies of various resilience indicators (such as longevity, health, emotional balance, etc.) is that people with healthy and numerous social relationships are at the top of the range... every time.
Ancient traditions of health maintenance and spiritual life were built on the deep insight that all of us are interconnected with each other and the whole world in ways we're not even consciously aware of. Quantum physics and the latest experiments in distance healing are beginning to validate this insight. What's it all mean?
You are a communal being - you're not meant to be alone or isolated!
As our Western society has evolved over the past century, driven by industrialization, urbanization and endless technological change, we've become more and more isolated. Sometimes it seems that our spouse and kids are all we have, if that! One of the symptoms of this isolation is the mushrooming of social media - facebook, myspace, twitter and more. People are desperate to connect with other people. It's a deep seated existential need we have as human beings.
So what can you do? If you want to be more resilient, help others to do the same. Connect with new people. Reconnect with old friends and family members. Take some time over the next week to go out for coffee with someone you haven't seen in a while or call them. Nudge somebody on facebook and remind them you care. What you give will come back to you many times over. Resilient people have big networks of other people they care about and people who care about them in return.
You CAN be such a person. Sharing love is not only easy, it's fun and it's free. What could be better?
~ Dr. Symeon Rodger